KOENA CONK: what are men really thinking

Red Lipstick attracts a Man but what about Blue Eye Shadow?

Think you know what appeals to a man...think again!

Most men don't like heavy makeup on a woman and honestly you don't need it unless you are attending a special event, courting the paparazzi or posing for pictures on your wedding day.

Cameron Diaz

Try natural or light makeup and don sexy lingerie for a one night rendezvous. If you have blemishes or spots using heavy foundation does not help either because it clogs your pores spend more time with a dermatologist or change your diet and take vitamin E. If you don't believe my rant about going natural check out this article on Shine

What do men really think? How can you read their actions?

Ever wonder what is going on in a man's head ...whether you are on a first date or in a serious relationship for eons.

Well, I think the best way to understand body language is to be silent and really listen. You are not in a race when you meet someone new to shovel the mini-memoir of all about me in 2 hours, take a deep breath and smile

Check out the Body Language Decoder on the Cosmopolitan magazine website and you may learn something new.

Cosmopolitan Body Language Decoder